Family Constellations Workshops

We inherit traumas and difficulties that belonged to our ancestors, and we often live them as our own in our daily lives.

Every cell in our body carries the information of all our ancestors. This is reflected externally in our skin color, eyes, the shape of our face and hands. And, in our day-to-day life, in our difficulties, blockages, traumas and illnesses, as well as in our strengths, gifts and qualities.

Our ancestors live on through us. Part of what they could not heal, we inherit. And what we fail to heal will remain a burden for generations to come. However, all that we manage to integrate and heal will profoundly benefit our children and our descendants.

Family constellation workshops allow us to discover and heal family patterns that are repeated generation after generation in our family systems.

Through these workshops and the power of group work, we can heal conscious and unconscious bonds of loyalty to our parents and ancestors. We learn to accept our history exactly as it was, leaving behind the need to change others in order to be happy and entering into emotional maturity, where we are the ones who transform our lives.

We heal the most important relationships in our lives. We work deeply to reconcile with our parents in an unconditional way, and in doing so, we find the strength to live life as it is.

I invite you to discover the richness of these workshops and to harness the power of group work. The connection transforms us. We accompany each other with respect and affection, and in each meeting we learn something new about ourselves thanks to the movements and experiences of others. Our experiences intertwine and this support encourages us to grow and heal in a very deep way.

Juana is chosen the same day to make a constellation. She will share with us in a few words (two or three sentences) the theme she wishes to work on. We do not give much information to avoid conditioning the people who will represent her and her family system.

The group will put itself at the service of this person and will represent, when necessary, the members of her family system and herself.

How do I make a representation?

I may designate someone to represent, for example, Joan’s mother, or a person may feel the impulse to participate in the constellation and represent a member of her family without knowing who she is. While we are in representation, we are not doing psychodrama; we are moved by the energy of the field and act as channels, thus receiving in our body the information of the person we represent. Therefore, it is very important that our body shows us the movements, and not our mind.

For example, if Joan wishes to constellate her relationship with money, in family constellations we associate the energy of money with the energy of our mother. Therefore, we will start the constellation with one person representing her mother and one person representing Juana.

All other participants will feel whether they should get involved in the constellation, as their body will tell them whether they feel a physical impulse to enter the constellation or not. This physical urge is similar to the urge to yawn or the need to move after having been still for a long time. We feel that we must enter the constellation and make some movement that we do not explain from our mind.

Depending on how people are positioned, if they approach, look at each other, move away, etc., I will propose to Juana different healing phrases that she can say, for example, to her mother. It could be in this case: “Mom, now I see you; now I see your sufferings. Thank you for having transmitted life to me”.

The constellation will develop in this way, through the phrases that Joan will say and the movements that the representatives will show. Little by little, we will identify which are the relationships that Juana needs to heal, as well as if there are loyalties or intricacies with members of her family or ancestors.

This process allows us to free ourselves from past traumas and conflicts, heal relationships and take our place in life. In this way, we find the strength to leave behind what no longer serves us and move forward with confidence and security.

I invite you to experience for yourself this profound healing experience, which we can only truly understand when we live it.

I know that it is possible to live better, heal our past and find strength in the present. I have experienced it in my own life and I have accompanied many people on this path, I invite you to try it!

If you want more information, do not hesitate to write me directly, I will be happy to answer you!

Best regards,

Carmen

Any person of legal age, who is emotionally and financially independent, who can decide on his or her own initiative to do personal work, can constellate.

Those who are going through a recent bereavement, such as those who are under psychiatric treatment, it is advisable not to constellate until they have recovered from their treatment and have gone through the crisis. This is because in order to be able to capitalize and receive all the information, it is necessary to feel as emotionally stable as possible.

Family Constellations are a therapeutic tool that allows us to see, in some way, the root of our conflicts, sufferings, traumas and illnesses.

It is not a long conventional therapy since in each constellation we discover which are the repetitive patterns that are rooted in our family system. We work on our personal history but also on the family unconscious.

In all family systems there were situations of suffering, traumas, diseases, famine, unresolved bereavement, situations of abuse, power, exclusions, abandonment, abortions. These painful experiences lived by our ancestors, if we do not incorporate, understand and work on them, can be repeated from generation to generation.

By means of the Family Constellations we look for to give to each person of our family system its place, and thus, to take our own place.

It is necessary to keep in mind that Family Constellations are NOT a medical treatment, but a philosophy of life to improve and enrich our daily life from the principles of order, acceptance, gratitude and love.

The creator of Family Constellations was Bert Hellinger, a German psychotherapist specialized in family relationships, who lived from 1925 to 2019. Before becoming a therapist, he studied philosophy, theology and pedagogy. He was a priest and lived sixteen years with the Zulus, an African tribe, as a missionary teacher.
During his life experience with the Zulus, Hellinger learned a different way of solving conflicts or problems by considering the influence of our ancestors in our lives.
Although Family Constellations already existed and were practiced, his experience with the Zulus allowed him to give it another approach and development which is the one we know today. That is why, years later, taking elements of these tribal dynamics together with the knowledge of systemic psychology, he gave birth, in the 1990s, to a technique of family therapy: Family Constellations, as he conceived them. At the beginning they spread in Germany and then their practice quickly spread all over the world.
Thanks to his experience and the collaboration of different therapists, Hellinger has been perfecting Family Constellations for more than thirty years.

We can constellate everything that is important to each of us because it is affecting our life. We can constellate relationships of all kinds, (parents, children, partner, etc.), health issues, work issues, organizational issues, difficulty in living in the present moment, legal or pedagogical problems, life mission, etc.

Family Constellations can be performed personally or individually, that is: the consultant and the therapist, or in a group. The theory that sustains the technique is the same, what changes is the experience.

When we do it in a group, the effects are enhanced by the entry into the game of the family systems of the other participants: the field opens up even more and the possibilities of making a quantum leap in our personal evolution are enhanced.

At the beginning, in a workshop, it is convenient to just observe. The simple fact of being an external observer, open to the dynamics and putting the energy at the service of the constellation, is in itself an enriching experience. You can also participate in the constellations of others by taking a role in the representation of the situation, or propose your own themes for constellation.

The facilitator helps to structure the dynamics, to read and interpret the constellations. Like the rest of the participants, he/she puts all his/her energy at the service of the constellation. The facilitator accompanies, interacts with the representatives and with the consultants to facilitate the expression of the information being received. He also introduces certain phrases that, when spoken by the person, have a healing connotation, both for him/herself and for his/her clan.

Our family systems are not limited to the small family with whom we share our current life experience. We are part of a larger system: we constitute it and it constitutes us. To heal your history implies by resonance, to heal and to put order to all your family system, the one of the past and the one of the future generations.

In the workshop of Family Constellations that we do in group, all the participants carry out a work on themselves, from their different places. Both attendees and representatives open their own system. In all places a deep work is done, either by identification or by resonance between the participants and their systems. In this sense, all the constellations that will be done on the day of the workshop will be at the service of each of the participants. Not all the people doing the workshop will do their own constellation, however, we will all work on our family system.

Yes, it is possible. The principle of online constellations is the same as that of face-to-face constellations. Each person, from where he is, puts at the service of his family system and puts himself at the service of the family system of the person who does his constellation.

The person who wishes to constellate explains the theme he/she wants to work on. Then a person is chosen to represent her and another person to represent her theme or the family member who may be involved in the situation.

Then, the constellation develops according to what the system is showing us thanks to the representatives; it can be loyalties, exclusions, conflicts in some relationship, etc. The facilitator proposes phrases so that whoever is doing his own constellation can communicate with his family system through the representatives, thus seeking harmony and inclusion of all members of his system.

The first thing we have to do is to respect the hierarchical order and that means taking our place as a child and accepting our parents exactly as they are, living with total gratitude for the life that comes to us from them and from our ancestors. The most precious thing they gave us was life, and we are here today because of them.

In Family Constellations we work with healing phrases to reconcile the link with each of our parents. Working on it, leads us as a domino effect to connect with life, with the present, with prosperity, abundance and success.

From the perspective of Family Constellations we question ourselves about our expectations as children, we practice the acceptance of others as they are (starting with our parents), respecting the personal stories and the suffering with which they also carried, seeking to honor the life that comes from them, from gratitude, because our parents, although they did not know how to be parents, gave us life.

Yes, as long as you are involved in the problem to be solved.

We can also make a constellation for our children or grandchildren, since they are part of our descendants.

On the other hand, it is important to clarify that respecting the order of the natural hierarchy, we cannot make constellations for our peers or for our ascendants. That is to say, we cannot make constellations for our parents, nor for our grandparents; neither for our siblings, nor for our friends. However, we can make a constellation to work on our relationship with any of them.

A child, with his or her unconditional love, as soon as he or she sees that there is suffering in his or her family, identifies with everything he or she sees, becomes distressed and blames himself or herself when he or she sees that his or her mother, father or siblings are suffering. The constellations are not to be seen by a child, but by an adult who is able to see the suffering and respect it, taking distance without identifying himself/herself.